My health is declining significantly but I don’t want to waste the little savings we have on myself before I go. We have been married for fourteen years with three kids who are 13, 10 and 7 years respectively. I am forty-two and my wife is thirty.
Three months ago, I was diagnosed with cancer of the lungs. The doctor said I came too late to the hospital because my lungs are almost completely damaged by the cancerous cells hence we have to act fast because he doesn’t think I have enough time left to live.
Sincerely speaking, I have been intermittently falling sick for the past two years and no matter how much my wife forces me to go to the hospital, I just find some home remedies and forget about it.
I know these doctors are often scared to tell us we are going to die anyway. I want the best for my family when I am gone. My wife is still young and so are the kids. They have a long way to go. I am making arrangements for them to have everything I own and I am securing my kids’ education.
The only thing I want to do now is tell my wife of my condition. I feel dead already. I am on drugs though but I know I have a very short time to live.
I am creating the best memories with my family right now. My wife is in suspense, she keeps asking why the sudden change.
When I am telling her of how to manage the business, the investments and all that, she only breaks down in tears asking me what the problem is.
I hate to see her cry, I feel like telling her will make her cry even more and might not be strong enough to handle the family in my absence.
I love my family so much. Deep down, I wish this isn’t happening but God knows best. In a conversation with the doctor a week ago, I noticed he was really finding it difficult to tell me some things which is a sign my time is up.
Should I inform my wife about it or I should just keep quiet and go when the time is due? She is already broken emotionally because she suspects I am hiding something from her.
She is upset with the way I have come to have time and patience with the family. She thinks I am being too nice plus, she doesn’t get why I have given her documents of all that I own.
I’m so lost. Thoughts are already draining the little strength I have left. What do you suggest I do?
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