‘I cheated on my husband with a colleague – I don’t know if I should tell him’

A woman is seeking advice after doing something “terrible” – and she hates herself because of it. Posting in a group online, she revealed that she cheated on her husband with a colleague after getting extremely drunk…..CONTINUE READING…CONTINUE READING

The 32-year-old woman said she and her husband, 34, have been married for one year and were together six years before that. They have no children together as of yet but want to start trying soon. The night she was unfaithful, she lied to her husband about where she was and when she got back home, he had left for a week-long boys’ holiday. Now, the woman finds herself in quite a predicament.

“I cannot tell you how much I regret what I have done. I constantly feel physically sick. I’ve barely ate and slept since it has happened and am crying constantly. I literally feel like the worst person in the world. I cannot believe I have done this. I would give literally anything to turn back the clock,” she wrote on Mumsnet.

“Originally I had planned to not tell him due to the hurt it would bring him given it was a one-off, not an affair. But I don’t know how to bear [sic] this anymore without talking to anyone about it. It literally feels unbearable. I honestly hate myself. I can’t tell family and friends and place this burden on them unless I do eventually tell him. It has crossed my mind to reach out to the OM (other man) just so I have someone to talk to about it as he’s the only person who knows but my gut is telling me that’s a very stupid idea. I have today then four more full days to figure something out before DH (darling husband) is back.”

She said she was open to hearing any advice, thoughts or similar experiences. She added: “I know full well how awful what I have done is which is why I’ve not provided more context as I don’t want it to look like I’m trying to excuse it.”

Commenters were quick to call her out on her behaviour, with many saying she should tell her husband. “Look, I’m not going to lay the boot in. You know you’ve f***ed up. You should tell your husband because he deserves all the information ESPECIALLY before you try to conceive a child – because if this comes out afterwards it’s not only your husband’s life you have potentially blown to pieces,” one person said. “If you tell him it’s possible that it will be the end of your marriage but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t,” another said. A third added: “If you contact [the other man] you’ll be into affair territory. You need to work out why you did it. You’ll probably need to consider a sexual health check too.”…..CONTINUE READING