Attraction does not always operate rationally. Some men are attracted to women who are dramatic or unpredictable, rather than attractive women who provide comfort and kindness.
To understand this phenomenon, we have to look at psychology, emotional demands, and the need for an adventure.
The Excitement of the Chase.
Toxic women create some level of uncertainty. Some men love challenges and unpredictable situations. It does not matter how unhealthy the situation is.
Emotional Peaks and Valleys
In toxic relationships emotions go through ups and downs. These ups and downs release dopamine, which is responsible for the reward system in the brain. Men tend to think that they are in love when in reality they are confusing the emotions felt during turbulent ups and downs of their relationships with something called love.
Ego and Need for Validation
Some toxic women refuse to show affection to men, so the latter need to work hard to receive approval. When validation comes, it feels very powerful to men.
Times when women are good things are likely to be stable, respectful, and emotionally secure. However, because of predictability, many men miss the point: they confuse stability with boredom instead of understanding that it is a precondition for having lasting love.
The Confusion of Drama
At times, men mistakenly associate lack of drama with lack of passion. Unhealthy women might seem to be more passionate and dramatic, making men think that their relationships have great meaning. However, in reality, passion is something that thrives in a situation where there is trust and respect, not chaos.
Thus, men often get attracted to toxic women simply because of the excitement, emotional rush, self-esteem boost, and illusion of passion. Men also disregard good relationships with good women, which provide stability and respect.
People should think about the fact that thrill is different from love. Long-lasting relationships can be found only based on trust and respect and emotional security.
